Karen does her best to summarize where we came from and why.

        

        

Thanks to a reader for this question:

We have a very close relative who is at present in depression and is a bit spaced out. It is especially apparent when anything new or something that needs her to think, decide, and plan comes up.

She seems really happy when she is with her little grandson. Of course, she forgets to get his food ready, but he seems to be OK so long as real hunger does not strike. His mother, though, is always around to help him. I was wondering, how is it that things work for both the kid and the grand mom? I can understand the kid's alignment but not that of the grand mom.

The family is very divided about the kind of treatment she should be given. I feel sad that in the process, she may get worse. Do you think she could understand the emotional scale and feelings and how she can try to find relief if I ask her to listen to some Abe tapes or would it not be a good thing? I actually do not even know if she feels something is wrong or if she feels that she is OK just the way she is.

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I think the most valuable thing you could do for your relative — and for you, too — is to hold an image of her as doing well. When you think of her, don't focus on her problems. Rather, focus on her joy in interacting with her little grandson. Envision her as feeling increasingly better. Envision things as working out with regard to any treatment she will be given. Imagine the treatment being helpful. Imagine the family feeling satisfied with her treatment.

We came forth into physical expression to create using our thoughts, our imagination, and you can contribute to your relative's well-being by seeing her in a positive light. It does no one any good to feel sad about her condition. Refusing to feel sad over this doesn't mean that you're an uncaring person; it means, rather, that you're unwilling to react to this circumstance in a way that separates you from your own wellbeing. 

It's nigh impossible to know how someone else is vibrating — that is, how they're really feeling. But if your relative seems happy when interacting with her grandson, who, as a child, is probably fairly happy as kids tend to be, you can assume that they're a vibrational match during the times they're together. In fact, they'd have to be a vibrational match, or their paths would not cross for long. Like attracts like (with regard to thoughts and feelings) to the farthest reaches of the Universe. 

Abraham has pointed out the ineffectiveness of our trying to answer a question that someone isn't asking. So, I'd say that unless your relative has asked you for some sort of general help or advice, it would probably not serve any purpose to share the concepts from Abraham. I think the Abe teachings will be most valuable, however, as you deliberately choose good-feeling thoughts about your relative's situation. That process can make a significant difference in how things play out.

        

        

Karen answers Tommy's burning question about relationships.

        

                                                           Way Down Upon the Swan-y River...
Stop focusing on what went wrong or what's going
wrong or what might go wrong. Instead, focus on what you like (appreciate) and what you want. Our mental focus is magnetic, bringing us events & circumstances that match our emotional tone.

        

        

In this segment, Karen tells Tommy Toucan how to find thoughts of relief regarding an unscrupulous business partner who flew the coop.