Why Would We Create Trouble for Ourselves?
Posted by Karen Williams at 6/15/2009 5:09 PM 
Categories: Health,Trouble,Problems
Tags: Health Trouble Problems Self-Creation Abraham-Hicks
Categories: Health,Trouble,Problems
Tags: Health Trouble Problems Self-Creation Abraham-Hicks
"My wife just recently lost her eyesight — completely blind at age 65. Why would anyone want to CREATE THAT handicap? We are dealing with it best we can. Any suggestions are appreciated."
I'm eager to reply to this question received from a reader, for I think many people hold the idea that we somehow deliberately create problems and trouble for ourselves at times. Why on earth would we do that?
Well, the answer is that we do not do that — we do not deliberately hurt or sabotage ourselves. Rather, we draw unwanted experiences and conditions to us simply because we're not aware of how things work. We don't understand how we get what we get.
If it weren't for "bad luck," some people would have no "luck" at all.
Mark and I were recently discussing someone who ever seems to have a string of bad luck. "How can anyone have THAT much go wrong?" Mark marveled. I replied that I think it's owing to the preponderance of well-being on the planet that more people don't have far more things going wrong, for most people are playing the game of life without the rule book. And the rule book states: "Whatever you consistently focus upon will show up in your experience — that or something equally wanted or unwanted — courtesy of Law of Attraction."
One of the most fitting all-time analogies from Abraham-Hicks is the buffet. Life is like an exotic buffet table with all sorts of scrumptious delicacies as well as some fried worms, sautéed toad skins, and pickled tarantulas. The logical thing to do is to move around the table, placing on our plate the pleasing delicacies while ignoring the food we find, uh, disgusting. This type of approach — selecting the pleasing while ignoring the displeasing — is a ticket to thriving.
But we've probably spent a few years or decades approaching things differently. We stand at the buffet table, horrified by some of the unwanted things there. We call others over to point out how weird and gross these items are. We talk about how we'd never want to eat such things in a million years. We summon the management to berate them for placing such icky items on the buffet table in the first place. We spend so much time looking at the fried worms that we lose our appetite and turn away from the fresh salads, creamy mashed potatoes, and chocolate cake that awaited us.
And then it happens. Just as we go outside to await a taxi to whisk us away from the atrocious place that calls itself a restaurant, we notice that some juice from some of the icky foods has gotten on our clothes. We smell bad! And what's this in our pocket? Omigosh, a tarantula that is merely drunk, not pickled! Ewwwwwwww!
The crucial message of negative emotions
We all do it at times — we give our attention to things that are unwanted and feel upset, irritated, vulnerable, grossed-out, or a range of other negative emotions. The negative emotions tell us that we're directing our thoughts in ways that will not serve us well. Our negative emotions tell us to look over at the fresh fruit platter and start to feel better. But we're perhaps locked into the habit of thinking we should be vigilant and aware of the sautéed toad skins, lest they jump on to our plate. And, voilà, through the Law of Attraction, those skins somehow find a way of doing just that.
As I mentioned recently on my Facebook page, every serious illness gives much warning before it manifests. The warning is in the form of negative emotion, which is generated by thoughts that focus on what is not wanted and not liked. After a while, the negative emotion can take the form of an illness, impairment, or some other equally unwanted experience.
So, the bad news is that we (almost totally unwittingly) draw unwanted conditions to us by our habits of thought. But that's also the good news, for by reversing our habits of thought, any unwanted condition can also be reversed. Abraham is ever ready to point out that no matter where we are, we can ALWAYS get to where we want to go. Always. No exceptions — no time, never!
Health can be restored
To return to our reader's question, his wife's blindness can be reversed. As she deliberately, decisively directs her attention AWAY from the problem(s) and on to things that feel good when she thinks about them, her natural well-being will gradually return.
In this case, the buffet table probably holds plenty of things to ignore: analysis and re-analysis of the eye trouble, frustration with doctors and other practitioners, berating oneself for not anticipating this situation, questioning "Why me?" That same buffet table offers much to select and savor: all the good vision of the past 60+ years, a solicitous mate, all that's available for vision-impaired people these days, and an appreciation that this can be changed via exploring and applying Law of Attraction.
It's all about mental focus. By gently, consistently re-directing her mental focus, our friend's wife can gently, consistently manifest literal visual focus far more to her liking.
And I'm sure I join with my other readers in wishing her the very best.
All that we want is ever flowing toward us. Our part is to remove our attention from what's wrong and thus allow our good to reach us.
I'm eager to reply to this question received from a reader, for I think many people hold the idea that we somehow deliberately create problems and trouble for ourselves at times. Why on earth would we do that?
Well, the answer is that we do not do that — we do not deliberately hurt or sabotage ourselves. Rather, we draw unwanted experiences and conditions to us simply because we're not aware of how things work. We don't understand how we get what we get.
If it weren't for "bad luck," some people would have no "luck" at all.
Mark and I were recently discussing someone who ever seems to have a string of bad luck. "How can anyone have THAT much go wrong?" Mark marveled. I replied that I think it's owing to the preponderance of well-being on the planet that more people don't have far more things going wrong, for most people are playing the game of life without the rule book. And the rule book states: "Whatever you consistently focus upon will show up in your experience — that or something equally wanted or unwanted — courtesy of Law of Attraction."
One of the most fitting all-time analogies from Abraham-Hicks is the buffet. Life is like an exotic buffet table with all sorts of scrumptious delicacies as well as some fried worms, sautéed toad skins, and pickled tarantulas. The logical thing to do is to move around the table, placing on our plate the pleasing delicacies while ignoring the food we find, uh, disgusting. This type of approach — selecting the pleasing while ignoring the displeasing — is a ticket to thriving.
But we've probably spent a few years or decades approaching things differently. We stand at the buffet table, horrified by some of the unwanted things there. We call others over to point out how weird and gross these items are. We talk about how we'd never want to eat such things in a million years. We summon the management to berate them for placing such icky items on the buffet table in the first place. We spend so much time looking at the fried worms that we lose our appetite and turn away from the fresh salads, creamy mashed potatoes, and chocolate cake that awaited us.
And then it happens. Just as we go outside to await a taxi to whisk us away from the atrocious place that calls itself a restaurant, we notice that some juice from some of the icky foods has gotten on our clothes. We smell bad! And what's this in our pocket? Omigosh, a tarantula that is merely drunk, not pickled! Ewwwwwwww!
The crucial message of negative emotions
We all do it at times — we give our attention to things that are unwanted and feel upset, irritated, vulnerable, grossed-out, or a range of other negative emotions. The negative emotions tell us that we're directing our thoughts in ways that will not serve us well. Our negative emotions tell us to look over at the fresh fruit platter and start to feel better. But we're perhaps locked into the habit of thinking we should be vigilant and aware of the sautéed toad skins, lest they jump on to our plate. And, voilà, through the Law of Attraction, those skins somehow find a way of doing just that.
As I mentioned recently on my Facebook page, every serious illness gives much warning before it manifests. The warning is in the form of negative emotion, which is generated by thoughts that focus on what is not wanted and not liked. After a while, the negative emotion can take the form of an illness, impairment, or some other equally unwanted experience.
So, the bad news is that we (almost totally unwittingly) draw unwanted conditions to us by our habits of thought. But that's also the good news, for by reversing our habits of thought, any unwanted condition can also be reversed. Abraham is ever ready to point out that no matter where we are, we can ALWAYS get to where we want to go. Always. No exceptions — no time, never!
Health can be restored
To return to our reader's question, his wife's blindness can be reversed. As she deliberately, decisively directs her attention AWAY from the problem(s) and on to things that feel good when she thinks about them, her natural well-being will gradually return.
In this case, the buffet table probably holds plenty of things to ignore: analysis and re-analysis of the eye trouble, frustration with doctors and other practitioners, berating oneself for not anticipating this situation, questioning "Why me?" That same buffet table offers much to select and savor: all the good vision of the past 60+ years, a solicitous mate, all that's available for vision-impaired people these days, and an appreciation that this can be changed via exploring and applying Law of Attraction.
It's all about mental focus. By gently, consistently re-directing her mental focus, our friend's wife can gently, consistently manifest literal visual focus far more to her liking.
And I'm sure I join with my other readers in wishing her the very best.
All that we want is ever flowing toward us. Our part is to remove our attention from what's wrong and thus allow our good to reach us.
Hi, Karen!
Thanks, for that whimsical illustration! ;O)
Still, that's how it is. I'm glad to be learning more and more of the details, and every sincere examination of how it works seems to help.
I see the Mrs with the little eye situation making wonderful discoveries about life and feeling better than she ever has!
Sunshine & Blessings,
Giovani
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Thanks, Giovani, for your always-uplifting comments.
Thanks for joining us in holding the vision for the return of vision.
Blessings back atcha!
Karen :>
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We are in DC right now because my brother in law had a heart attack Sat. night. He is not in this conversation of Law of Attraction and I could not share this with him right now. He is also legally blind and has Type 2 diabetes.
My mother can’t sleep at night so she takes Tylenol EVERY night. If I tell her that is dangerous, she gets mad at me so I say nothing. As a Law of Attraction teacher myself, I know the answer to the question I am implying here is to focus on seeing them healthy and aware. Whole and perfect. Sometimes I fail. More times than not lately, I succeed.
I also believe that everything that happens is all happening in MY world, in MY reality because this is part of the play that I have written for my experience here in the physical.
The experience of seeing my brother in law in this situation has brought the family closer together and has brought my husband and I closer together. After over 5 years of being together, I can say that I am falling more and more in love with him as we go.
I am able to be here for him and show him how much I love him in a way I have never been able to show him before. We are here, visiting his brother, and we are also being there for each other.
I can’t help thinking that all is perfect, even if we can’t understand it.
Abraham says that physical ailments, just like our emotions, are part of our guidance system. So if you have an ache, in the moment, try to identify the thought or emotion you just had. Wayne Dyer says when you have that ache or pain in your body, say “All is possible with God. I feel good.” Mark, Karen’s husband says, “I’m going to live to be 100 (or 120???) and affirms that he feels good.”
My brother in law admits that he’s been a workaholic, neglecting his health and now, with this heart attack, he realizes that there are more important things in life and it just hasn’t been worth it.
He is having his own realization now.
My husband and his brother love each other dearly, but they never see each other. They live in different states and a $59 one way airfare away.
Now we are talking about coming up to visit and spending time with him.
The Universe gives you signs and more signs and more signs and sometimes, if you don’t pay attention it gives you a giant sign-a giant wake up call, a giant slap upside your head. But it’s all out of what we’re focusing on like Karen says.
When my husband and I got to the airport restaurant, our waitress’ name was Harmony. I said to my husband, “This is a good sign. Your brother is going to be okay.”
When we got to the hospital, the name of the nurse on duty was “Comfort”. My husband and I looked at each other again. Yes, another good sign.
My brother in law then told us of another nurse named Angel who took care of him while they were waiting for the helicopter to take him to a different hospital. Yes, another good sign.
Rhonda Ryder
www.kidsawakening.com
www.lawofattractionexperts.com
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Thank you, Rhonda, for your beautifully-written comments, updating us on your trip to DC and your husband's brother. It sounds as if many uplifting things are happening. Harmony, Comfort, and Angel! How amazing is that?!?
We wish your brother-in-law and all the family our very best. Thanks so much for the perspective that you teach and share.
Karen
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Very beautiful Karen
I wish our dear friend a peaceful and joyful recovery.
Thanks Rhonda for sharing your lovely story.
Of late there are many tensions at my work place due to some very inhumanistic proposals on work hours, leave and pay structures by the management. This makes me feel disheartened and uncomfortable. As this is a management decision, there is little I can do. I have been trying to keep away from discussions and presentations made on the subject, but find myself worried and often drawn into it. I am looking forward to attracting a wonderful job and a great pay with a fantastic work culture. Though I see good things about the place where I work now, I am not able to stay in that good feeling thought for long.
Please help
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despair: the feeling that everything is wrong and nothing will turn out well.
Do you experience this? We’ve all heard of cell phone “dead zones.” Sometimes I enter a personal dead zone. Here’s how it works…
I’m going about my day, doing the next thing, perhaps even walking in the present reality of God’s kingdom and mindful of the fullness of life and spiritual abundance within me…and then suddenly the “dead zone”…a surge of despair and emptiness and aloneness and despondency sweeps over me.
Sometimes it’s a weariness like the feeling that I’m pretty much done with life and living and ready to move on to something different. Sometimes it feels like I’m observing the world in motion and every shred of it seems like total insanity. Sometimes it feels like I just want to unplug from it all, get off the merry-go-round and fade into the woodwork never to be heard from again - like move to New Zealand and become a sheep herder or something. Eventually I pass through the dead zone, and awaken to the truth and reality of the present moment.
I am contacted by many people who express despair. So, I have some questions. Do you experience despair? What is it like for you? Does it take some specific form such as the ways I descried mine above?
Also, are feelings of despair a sign of failure - as in you’re just not “getting it” or otherwise you wouldn’t be experiencing such negative thoughts or feelings? What exactly is “despair” beyond the above definition? Where does it come from? What causes it? What is the way you deal with it?
Whatever “it” is, is despair simply a part of being human? Karen, Just wondering if you had any thoughts on this?
GT
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Karen I love your thinking and how you write. Well done! Very clear, very helpful. Blessings, lisabetta
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